More on Mobile Apps and How Online Dating is Like Crack


For some baby boomers using a smart phone can be challenging and so the idea of installing and using an app for your phone can seem even more daunting.  But it’s not that hard and I’m sure you can ask a young person to help you.  Here is how you “download” an app for your phone or other mobile device.  You will want to go to the App Store on your smart phone  or other mobile device and do a search.  Type in the name of the dating site such as Okc – Ok Cupid or POF – Plenty of Fish to name just two.  Once the app shows up you can install it for free.   My recommendation is to have already registered with the site on your home computer for ease in signing in on the mobile app.

Now to my next topic: How Online Dating is Like Crack

I was reading an email the other day from one of my favorite authors, Dr. Ali Binazir.  He has written several books and I personally have purchased “The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible” –   He has written one for men too. “The Tao of Dating: The Thinking Man’s Enlightened Guide to Success with Women” –  These books have a lot of helpful information about dating with a spiritual twist.  Dr. Ali uses the term Goddess in his book for women.  Who is a Goddess? Oh, you mean me?  You can purchase the books through Amazon and he has an ebook version too.

Dr. Ali also sends out regular emails, if you want to subscribe.  Here is a snippet from his mailbag that had me laughing out loud..actually, I was giggling out loud.  He has given permission to share so here you go: In other news, I’ve also been receiving many letters of the “omigod I met someone online who seemed perfect and then for some strange reason things went terribly wrong omigod what happened please explain please please” variety. It’s like I’ve been telling you for years not to smoke crack, and then you come and say:

So doc, last night I was smoking crack, and my crack pipe started to malfunction and instead of blowing the hot smoke up my nose it went straight into my eyes. It hurt so bad! What should I do?

{Here is where I started giggling}

Well, you should stop smoking crack, that’s what you should do. Online dating is the problem. Think about it this way: Ever been to a bar? Know people who hooked up with or even married someone they met at a bar? I mean, hey, friends don’t let friends do that kinda thing, but it happens. Still, it doesn’t exactly make bars Soulmate Central.

Now let’s take that bar and make it 10,000 times bigger, so it’s even more of a zoo. Let’s put lifts in all the guys’ shoes and put fake money in their pockets. Let’s give all the women fake IDs that say they’re 5 years younger. Everyone only says things that they’ve rehearsed before, so they sound sooo smooooth. And let’s make everyone 100 times ruder and more dismissive than they are in real life. Welcome to online dating. Are you sure you sure this is where you want to find a mate?

Another email  that was very informative was about not using text messaging or emails to break it off with someone.  Now I know it can be tempting but a breakup does require a real time conversation.  Unless…do you think it is ok to email if you only had one or two dates? Here is what Dr. Ali has to say about that: “No emotional communication via email, text, or voicemail (aka asynchronous media).  Ever. You should use email, text and even voicemail to transmit straight data only.  ‘What time are we meeting’, ‘what’s the address’, that kind of thing.  The occasional compliment or flirty message is okay, but even those can be subject to misunderstanding.”


So I think it goes without saying that we must remember to use our manners.  Thanks to Dr. Ali Binazir for his great wisdom AND commonsense approach to dating.


2 comments on “More on Mobile Apps and How Online Dating is Like Crack

  1. They say you can tell a person’s character by how they treat the wait staff, retail clerks, and others who can’t do anything significant for them.
    I loved the advice in the link;“No emotional communication via email, text, or voicemail, ever.” That is SO important, and it applies to everyone from colleagues to our closest loved ones.


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