I was talking to a friend the other day about online dating and we were discussing how far we have come in the past 10 -12 years with the “acceptance of online dating.” Around that same time I came across a re-broadcast of an Oprah program from 2002 where women were discussing their experiences of online dating after age 45. Ten or twelve years ago you were looked at as a loser, weird, or just desperate. Today, if you mention to someone that you are online dating it really is no big deal. That conversation and radio program prompted me to look around the internet to see what articles I could find about Baby Boomers and online dating to reinforce the notion that you are not a loser, weird, or desperate if you are considering or are already online dating. I found a Time Magazine article from 2010 about how Online Dating is enjoying a splash among Boomers. I’ve excerpted that article into this blog. You can read the full article at: http://content.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,2033283,00.html
Today, it is Baby Boomers who are making the biggest splash in the online dating pool. Just as Baby Boomers have lagged behind younger people in embracing the new technology, so have they been slower to dip their toe into the cyberspace dating waters. “Once you shove them out there, they adapt quickly. They remember what it’s like to have fun.”
Online dating is a natural for aging Baby Boomers precisely because they’ve been around the block a few times. “Older singles also have a better perspective on their personal values and priorities in life. Experience from past relationships is a huge advantage for older singles who are looking to get into another long-term relationship.”
Boomers, moreover, often have a more open-minded view of potential partners, which is well suited to the online search process. “Older people are looking for a companion, a lifelong partner,” says Fisher. “They are not looking for a reproductive partner, so they can look at a broader range of individuals and are more likely to pick somebody from different social economic or religious backgrounds. They don’t have to bring this person home to mother anymore and explain why he’s Greek instead of Jewish.”
And with age comes a wider circle of connections. There are countless stories about Boomers bumping into someone online whom they knew in their early years. Jerry Brown, 60, a widower from Lake Forest, Calif., was pushed to start dating again by his daughters, who took his photo and wrote his online profile; soon he was perusing potential mates under the screen name Voltageman5050.
Here is an excerpt from a great blog by Stephanie Stephens about how us Baby Boomers are not desperate but we are lonely and how men want to commit sooner than women. You can read the full article at: http://mindyourbody.tv/successful-online-dating/
You can watch the video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QYO2gwQyRQE
We boomers aren’t desperate: Singles over 60 are most likely to insist on a partnership that includes sexual attraction and romance; moreover, they are more likely than any other age group to achieve orgasm—a thrilling 91-100 percent of the time!
Men find loneliness just as stressful as women do: Thirty-one percent of men and 33 percent of women report that they find loneliness to be “very stressful” or “somewhat stressful.” And men are more likely to report that loneliness is a challenging aspect of being single (27 percent of men and 22 percent of women).
When it comes to cohabitation, men want to commit sooner than women: Contrary to popular belief, when dating a new partner, 46 percent of men and 26 percent of women would expect to move in together before they’d been dating someone for less than a year. Additionally, the odds for us boomer gals aren’t bad. Although from 2007, statistics showed that in our age group, there were 92 men for every 100 women for those of us aged 55 through 64.
I would love to hear about your experience as a Baby Boomer and Online Dating. Feel free to leave a comment and you can post anonymously if you want to. Until next time…happy dating!